You’re in a situation where you feel everything is spinning out of control and you wake up every day to sadness, fatigue and the feeling of misery. Admit it, life sucks and you feel like there’s no real reason for you to be alive. All you want to do is cry all day, every day. You rather crawl into a hole and die. If everything I said resonates with you, well, I want to tell you some things that might just help.
Bawl if you have to. If time stops and your world is spinning, take a moment for yourself. You are allowed to sit in the toilet and cry to your heart’s content. Let it all out. When the tears stop coming and you have nothing left to let out, dry your face, stand up and get back to work like nothing ever happened. Life goes on whether you like it or not and even if you have to let yourself have a moment, you always pick yourself up in the end.
Tell your boyfriend, your best friend, your mom, your cat, or even your soft toy. You should never keep things in and risk becoming a ticking time bomb. Talk about it until you can’t talk about it anymore and the sound of your own voice starts to pluck on your nerves. Then STFU and get back to work. Remember there’s always a limit and you should never complain just for the sake of complaining, but you do have to release some pressure so you don’t burst. Find that balance.
3. Count your blessings
Watch all the bloody documentaries on people that have gone through war, poverty, abuse, oppression and true loss if you have to to pull your head out of the clouds. You have a roof over your head, food to eat when you are hungry, the ability to buy your favourite shoes and clothes whenever you feel the need to, and people who love you who would never intentionally hurt you. Think about the people who never had and will never have that; who are dying from starvation and need. You will survive.
Let the words flow from pen to paper, or keyboard to screen. Whatever it is, write. As the words become tangible, you’ll be able to look at them and sort out your priorities and thoughts. Things will be put into perspective for you. Your goals and priorities become clearer. Eventually, you’ll find yourself learning things about yourself that you never knew before.
5. Be productive
Finish what you have to when you have to. If you have an assignment to finish, don’t hold it off until later. Do it now. Finish it as fast as you can. There’s really no better feeling in the world than completing a task on time with the best amount of effort and seeing the fruits of your work. I am the hugest procrastinator, so take my word for it and try it out once for yourself if it isn’t already a habit. It’ll save you so much time and stress, it’s unbelievable.
6. Be unproductive
When you’re done with your work, utilise your free time in the best way possible. Sleep in until 2 p.m., paint your nails, watch a whole season of your favourite TV series in a day, scroll through Instagram and stalk hot chicks for 4 hours, eat all the chips. IDC whatever the hell you decide to do, time spent doing something you enjoy is always time well spent, regardless of how unproductive it is. Remember to treat yourself after a job well done.
7. Nothing is permanent
I tell everyone going through a bad situation this, so I think it’s time for me to start taking my own advice: nothing is permanent. I don’t mean that in a cynical, no one will ever really love forever way. It’s your life, and everything you decide to do is in your hands. If you REALLY cannot stand a situation you are in, then get out of it. There’s an end to everything. If you hate your job, quit. If you aren’t happy with your body image, exercise or eat healthily. If you’re in an emotionally or physically abusive relationship (God forbid), get the fuck out of there or ask someone for help so you can get the fuck out of there. I believe that in life, we are never put into situations we cannot handle. One way to do it is to admit defeat, know when enough is enough, make like a tree and leaf (harhar, I’m so funny). Life is too short to deal with all that shit, Zoé.
Now, go out there, man the fuck up and kick life in the ass.